tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post1999864287093415122..comments2023-10-08T05:00:23.559-04:00Comments on Clarissa's Blog: Quashing DissentClarissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-627958102805264602009-06-11T18:55:22.320-04:002009-06-11T18:55:22.320-04:00It's great to see how through reasonable and c...It's great to see how through reasonable and calm discussion everything is clarified and everybody manages to express their points of view. Thank you for stating your opinions in such a clear way and hearing what I have to say in return. This is exactly what I wanted to achieve with this last post. It's such a relief to discuss things with people like you.Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-18758864631531542192009-06-11T18:48:37.775-04:002009-06-11T18:48:37.775-04:00I used psychiatrist here because a psychiatrist is...I used psychiatrist here because a psychiatrist is the only of the three practitioners (psychiatrist, psychologist, psychoanalyst) who would be able to prescribe psychiatric medication, in the cases that the person is experiencing panic attack symptoms. In the situation where the person is experiencing the panic attack symptoms, ideally she would see a psychologist or psychoanalyst for evaluation, a psychiatrist for medication, and a psychotherapist for therapy.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-74173798947123262262009-06-11T18:44:28.883-04:002009-06-11T18:44:28.883-04:00The only thing I disagree with here is your use of...The only thing I disagree with here is your use of the word psychiatrist. Psychologist or psychoanalyst, yes. But a psychiatrist is a different thing and I NEVER would suggest this in a similar situation.Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-19203033033290293382009-06-11T18:37:48.929-04:002009-06-11T18:37:48.929-04:00It depends how the letter-writer meant "gaggi...It depends how the letter-writer meant "gagging at the thought of sex." If she meant gagging at the thought of sex in itself (if mention of anything related to sex provokes such a biological reaction), perhaps seeing a psychiatrist may be a viable option, as involuntary gagging is a symptom of panic attacks, and it would be very difficult to pass through life without witnessing any references to sex.<br /><br />However, if the letter-writer meant feeling repulsed by the thought of <i>herself</i> having sex (which I suspect is what she meant), it is questionable whether or not such a suggestion to visit a psychiatrist would be appropriate, particularly if she herself feels sexually fulfilled without seeking sexual relations. (Also, we must consider that a situation where she would have to think about herself having sex would not occur often, if she is not seeking sexual relations.) It would mostly depend on whether she actually experiences a biological reaction (panic attack symptom) or is simply using "this makes me gag" as an expression. In the case where she experiences actual gagging, a suggestion to visit to a psychiatrist may be appropriate, but in the case where she is simply using an expression and not actually experiencing panic attack symptoms, a suggestion to see a psychiatrist may not be as appropriate.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-81487162348745570152009-06-11T18:04:26.596-04:002009-06-11T18:04:26.596-04:00Ok, now I understand your position. However, my vi...Ok, now I understand your position. However, my view is different. For me, when someone is repulsed by human touch and wants to gag at the thought of sex, visiting a psychologist is the most logical thing to suggest. I believe it's a valid option to pursue before deciding you are necessarily asexual. But I see that you believe otherwise and respect your right to think so.Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-58329211134136079092009-06-11T17:55:58.152-04:002009-06-11T17:55:58.152-04:00why do you think it's wrong in this situation ...<i>why do you think it's wrong in this situation to suggest that one might want to see a psychologist?</i><br />Our discussion was about sexual fulfillment, and arguments related to whether or not it is appropriate to suggest seeing a psychologist are irrelevant to our discussion. I will address this question anyway.<br /><br />As it has been <a href="http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com/2009/06/quashing-dissent.html?showComment=1244752500109#c6281127005903989909" rel="nofollow">previously said</a> that the <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015908.html" rel="nofollow">individual in question</a> is not distressed by her lack of sexual interest, and as it has been <a href="http://clarissasbox.blogspot.com/2009/06/quashing-dissent.html?showComment=1244752500109#c6281127005903989909" rel="nofollow">proven</a> that some people can obtain sexual fulfillment through not pursuing sexual relations, I would argue that it would be illogical to suggest to the individual in question that because she is uninterested in sex, she see a psychologist.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-23479018587317853162009-06-11T17:30:39.103-04:002009-06-11T17:30:39.103-04:00My question is: why do you think it's wrong in...My question is: why do you think it's wrong in this situation to suggest that one might want to see a psychologist? If you don't think it's wrong, then what are we arguing about? :-)Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-12368931188862217362009-06-11T17:24:51.296-04:002009-06-11T17:24:51.296-04:00If you would read the page in full, the one who di...If you would read the page in full, the one who diagnosed <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015737.html" rel="nofollow">this person</a> over the internet as experiencing an inability to orgasm (definition of anorgasmia) was not me, but a medical professional that Professor Foxy had shown the letter.<br /><br />For the purposes of our debate, what is causing <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015908.html" rel="nofollow">this other person</a>'s lack of interest in sex is irrelevant to whether or not one should advocate for her choice to seek sexual fulfillment through consciously choosing to not pursue sexual relations.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-31244073148199543892009-06-11T16:46:38.896-04:002009-06-11T16:46:38.896-04:00I don't understand why it should be ok for you...I don't understand why it should be ok for you to "diagnose"this person over the internet but not for me. <br /><br />You argue this, and I argue something else. So where is the problem? Why should you be more entitled to make your argument than I to make mine?<br /><br />I suggest that there might be a psychological or a societal reason for this. Do you believe that there is no such possibility whatsoever?Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-62811270059039899092009-06-11T16:35:00.109-04:002009-06-11T16:35:00.109-04:00In your original post, you referenced this post at...In your original post, you referenced <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015908.html" rel="nofollow">this post</a> at Feministing. I would argue that the letter-writer in question is not anorgasmic (as she appears to experience orgasm when she masturbates) but simply uninterested in sex. She is upset not by her lack of interest in sex, but by her peers' reactions to her lack of interest in sex. (An example of an anorgasmic letter-writer would be <a href="http://www.feministing.com/archives/015737.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>.)<br /><br />Further, your argument about destroying patriarchal stereotypes has been used to define women who choose to be housewives as similarly "unfulfilled." I would argue that as the letter-writer in Feministing is not distressed by her conscious choice to not pursue sexual relations, she is, by definition, sexually fulfilled.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-52125969464067351162009-06-11T16:01:52.808-04:002009-06-11T16:01:52.808-04:00Hezaa: my arguments are not about asexuality. They...Hezaa: my arguments are not about asexuality. They are about feminists who defend "the woman's right to fake an orgasm" and a woman's right not to have sex but do not dedicate nearly significant time and energy to destroying patriarchal stereotypes that force millions of women to live sexually unfulfilled. These women are not asexual, they are anorgasmic. But it's easier to just dismiss them by placing them into the asexual identity group.Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-25696784865128094442009-06-11T15:18:38.165-04:002009-06-11T15:18:38.165-04:00I believe you are arguing here that you want your ...I believe you are arguing here that you want your students to understand your arguments before deciding whether to agree or to disgaree with you as their teacher. You seem to express a preference for the latter (that a student disagrees). While it is true that one should understand another's argument before agreeing or disagreeing with it, I would argue that agreement is not necessarily blind agreement, if the agreeing person can explain and defend the argument.<br /><br />That said, so far I have not voiced agreement or disagreement with you on the subject of asexuality, and I have only asked you questions so that I can better understand your argument. So far, I can't make a judgement because your arguments are not condensed in one place (they are scattered throughout the comments on the original thread). Please condense your arguments about asexuality so that I may understand and respond to them.Hezaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13460490508576917629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3164556861454970487.post-25301815444240503442009-06-11T07:54:06.954-04:002009-06-11T07:54:06.954-04:00Thank you, I was touched... :)
V.Thank you, I was touched... :)<br />V.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com