Recently, there has been a flurry of posts on quasi-feminist websites that defend the "right" of women to debase themselves to please men and still consider themselves feminists. Here is one recent example:
Because he has started his third year in medical school on a surgery rotation. That means he gets up at 4am to go to the hospital and comes back home anytime between 7pm-8pm. Not counting every fourth night where he is on call at the hospital all night. He also has to study in the very little free time he has. Compared to my own schedule, I work Monday-Friday 9am to 5pm. Therefore, I’m the one doing the household duties around the house–cleaning, cooking, and doing laundry. Don’t get me wrong–my significant other is probably a better cook than I am (though I’m the better baker), and in [most situations] is cleaner than I am. But he just doesn’t have time for those household chores. So I don’t do those chores for him; I do it for us. Another thing: we recently got engaged. He gave me a gorgeous ring which I love. Yes I know what the feminist implications of wearing an engagement ring. For me, though, I am reminded of our love and relationship every time I look at the ring. . . I will probably take his last name so that our family will all have the same last name.Believe me, I'm the last person to dispute this woman's "right" to sell her identity for a big, shiny bauble. If she wants to dedicate her life to servicing the all-important needs of a man, who's to prevent her from doing it? If she chooses to be reminded of his "love" by an expensive object rather than by his daily efforts to do his own dishes, clean his own space, and cook his own food, that's her inalienable right. If she wants to become a man's servant and his appendage who does not even deserve her own name, so be it. Hell, she can lick his boots clean every time he comes through the door, for all I care.
What I find so appalling is not that these Palin lookalikes turn themselves into willing domestic slaves of men and spit on every single thing feminism has gained for us. What angers me is that while doing so, while perpetuating the image of women as secondary to men, they dare claim for themselves the name of valiant women who dedicated their lives to earning the right of women to be recognized as fully human.