Like any blogger, I get my fair share of trolls and nasty, offensive comments. I don't let hateful comments be published because, as I explained before, I don't feel like providing trolls and hate-mongers with a platform from which they can insult people and get access to wider audiences. Still, I was not prepared for the outporing of unmitigated viciousness that descended on me for writing about victim-blaming in cases of rape. Some really crazed weirdos felt it was necessary to leave their disgusting rape fantasies in the comments to the post. This served to remind me how unhealthy the attitude of our society towards rape still is.
Rape is a topic that often brings out the monster even in some seemingly nice people who might even insist they have feminist sympathies. I believe that the collection of essays Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape can help weed out closet woman-haters in one's life. At the start of a relationship with a man, I think it makes absolute sense to recommend this book to him and then discuss it with him. If there is any anti-women jerkdom in him, it is bound to come out then.