Sunday, May 24, 2009

Couples' Blogs

Now that I have a blog, I often surf other people's blogs to see what everybody is writing about. In my searches, I found this weird creation: a couple's blog. The weirdest thing about them is that about 90% of them are written exclusively by women. Which prompts the question: why are they presented as "our blog" and the owner(s) introduced as "we"? Can these women not see themselves as a complete whole outside of the relationship? I mean, this is supposed to be a personal diary. If you write it completely on your own, then what does this format contribute to your writing? Don't you have any thoughts that you can claim as your own, without involving a partner (who evidently is not even participating in the writing)?

Unfortunately, many women do this on other areas of their lives as well. Somehow, they feel that having a significant other precludes them from participating in any one-on-one activities with their friends. I have often observed female friends who get together and for some reason bring their unwilling boyfriends and husbands, who are obligated to look for some common topics of interest.

As much as I love my partner, I feel perfectly justified in having my own intellectual life, my own blog, my writing, my hobbies, and my friends. By being a complete and interesting human being in your own right you can contribute all the more to any relationship you might have.

1 comment:

Independent said...

Wow. I feel so understood in that article. I sometimes find myself in a world where woman can talk about nothing else than their partners life. I am not interested in that.