I’m caught between looking out for her safety, and trying to loosen the leash a little.
Because she isn't really a child, you know. She's a puppy. This is about a little friend her daughter tried to make:
This little girl, let’s call her Angie, is about a year older than Julia, and gives me a bad vibe. I know it seems ridiculous to get a bad vibe from a 7-year-old girl, especially when her mom is like the sweetest woman on the planet, as are her older siblings, but I can’t help it. First it has to do with the things I see her do when Julia’s not looking. She makes faces and rolls her eyes at Julia, and such. Then it’s the way she often checks to see if I’m watching. She makes me uncomfortable.
And more about the poor child's attempt to form a friendship. Note that this is an autistic child who might not find forming friendships to be all that easy in the first place. Just observe the attempts at programming the girl: nobody is your friend, you are mistaken if you think they are. Also pay attention to how the mother has already figured out what the child's emotional reaction should be. The girl isn't even entitled to her own emotions.
She has absolutely no idea that this girl isn’t her friend. None. And the really heartbreaking part is that if she were to discover that fact, it would devastate her.And the culmination of this ode to pervasive control:
It’s not enough for me to just tell her to trust her instincts, and to not let people fool her into breaking the rules, or doing something dangerous. She needed me to tell her she can’t walk on the handrails. Well who the hell would’ve thought she’d do that? I have no way of anticipating what the next little manipulator will try to get her to do. So, right this second I’m at a bit of a loss as to how to keep my girl safe, and still let her explore her world a bit.Is anybody wondering what it is that the little girl is escaping from through her autism? I know I'm not.
P.S. Please don't try posting anti-autistic crap. I will not let it through anyways.