Friday, October 9, 2009
"Negotiating" Condom Use
The following question appeared at the end of the post and shocked me very deeply: "For those who use FCs, do you find that they help reduce the need to negotiate condom usage with a partner?" I honestly thought that any "negotiation" of condom usage was a thing of the past.
Is there any woman in her right mind that enters into any kind of a discussion with a man who attempts to have sex with her without a condom? In this day and age, where you could catch any kind of disease from unprotected sex, why "negotiate" condom usage? Why not just tell the person who attempts to suggest something so potentially dangerous that they should take a hike and never come back? Who needs a sexual partner that is so stupidly careless about such an important issue? God knows how many people they "negotiated" with before and how many diseases they accumulated as a result of those negotiations.
It is highly distutbing to see a feminist blog talking about condom usage in this way. It is as if we still lived in the times where there was any necessity for a woman to please a partner at all costs, even at the cost of her health and possibly life.