Friday, March 4, 2011

Mark Regnerus Beseeches Women Not to Have Sex

Mark Regnerus has been making a laughing stock out of himself for a while now. He keeps publishing articles and books beseeching women not to have sex until they manage to wheedle, manipulate and cajole men into marrying them. Regnerus is one of those sad, extremely unattractive individuals who compensate for their lack of appeal for the opposite sex by appointing themselves as experts on what that opposite sex "really wants." 

In Regnerus's upside-down universe, all men want casual sex while all women want courtship, marriage and a lesser number of sex partners:
When attractive women will still bed you, life for young men, even those who are floundering, just isn't so bad. This isn't to say that all men direct the course of their relationships. Plenty don't. But what many young men wish for—access to sex without too many complications or commitments—carries the day. If women were more fully in charge of how their relationships transpired, we'd be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, longer relationships, fewer premarital sexual partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on. 
The extremely complex idea that all men and all women are different and that they might even want different things during different stages of their lives never occurs to Regnerus. His attempts to explain human sexuality in purely economic terms tell us nothing about men, women or sex. They do, however, tell us a lot about the author's extremely unhappy personal life. When I read Regnerus's sad verbal monstrosities such as "women are holding the sexual purse strings" and "the market "price" of sex is currently very low", I feel embarrassed for the author who exhibits his psychological, emotional and sexual deficiencies so openly. It is as if he were screaming to the world: "Why, oh why do women keep having sex with certain men for free while paying no attention to folks who are willing to pay them and even marry them in return???"

Regnerus is a sad throwback to the times where men had the power to choose women unilaterally. For women in certain social classes, getting married was the only way to provide for themselves. As a result, they were forced to value offers of marriage a lot higher than any financially independent woman can today. Nowadays, things are more complicated. Women have realized that sex is fun and are now choosing men based on whether they feel attracted to them. And this is something that is driving Regnerus insane. 


Pagan Topologist said...

I confess that I am glad you agree with me on this.

Clarissa said...

You know me. :-) I couldn't have agreed with this author's unhealthy ideas.

Anonymous said...

Saw the photo, and I agree, it is a small but valid possible contributing factor to motivation for the whole world view.

That beard is just silly! No, it is actually dumb! I had a silly little beard when I was about 18 or 19 and thought I was cool, not having the beard made me look too young (in my mind, then).

I know any man can make themselves better looking just by being a bit intelligent about how you present to the world, and being willing to try new things - clothes, hair, behaviour - just experimenting and being responsive to the feedback the world gives you.

This applies to guys and girls! I know this isn't particularly insightful or new, just felt like writing this.

Pagan Topologist said...

I am confused by the meaning of the Anonymous at 2:30 AM comment. I love my beard. So does my wife. My mother does not. What does this have to do with this post??

Clarissa said...

Maybe the problem is that the post was written at 2:30 am. :-)

There's nothing wrong with beards.