Don't you just love it when people condescend to us, poor, miserable women who have the misfortune of not being stick-thin? The most well-meaning of them will go to huge lengths trying to persuade us that there might be somebody out there who will be noble enough to put up with our fatness and find us attractive.
Hugo Scvhwyzer, an otherwise progressive blogger, loves consoling the fat chicks (who never really asked him to do it) that not all is lost to them romantically. If a larger-sized woman tries to tell him that neither his pity nor his reassurance are needed since her size never had any adverse effect on her personal life, he gets testy and starts persuading her that she is wrong and men ridicule those losers who agreed to date her fat ass. A couple of days ago, Hugo returned to this favorite topic of his:
Men who are sexually attracted to heavy women are more numerous than we’re led to believe, Camile Dodero writes, and that has important implications both for our understanding of male sexuality and for our ongoing conversation about weight and desire.
Actually, the only source that ever tried to suggest to me that my size 14 is anything other than extremely desirable is Hugo's blog. Hugo needs to believe that
Many heavy women do have painful stories of men who were quite happy to fuck them in private but refuse to date them in public.
In order to convince himself and everybody else around that a woman's weight actually influences her personal life (and what a silly idea that is!), this progressive blogger keeps coming up with weird stories from his own dating life to prove that, since he used to try to gain acceptance from other men through his dating choices, the rest of men on this planet share this unhealthy way of dealing with their own sexuality.
There is good news, though. If we, the God-forsaken and lonely fat women, manage to demonstrate that we are "charming, funny, great in bed, and whip-smart" we can hope to have the great fortune of getting someone like Hugo to condescend to date us for a short while. Yippee!